Frequently Asked Questions Regarding a Divorce
Q: How long does it take to get a divorce?
A: If the parties have no minor child or children then the divorce can be completed in 60 days.If the parties share a minor child or children then the divorce can be completed in six months from the date of filing for divorce. If the parties agree on issues of property division and custody then the divorce is less expensive and is usually finalized in the time period stated above and sometimes even sooner.
Q: Is there an advantage to filing first for divorce?
A: Under some circumstances, the answer is yes. If the parties are not living together and share minor children then the party to file first may get a court order granting temporary custody and child support. Further, the party filing first may request that the spouse pay a portion of his or her attorney fees, temporary spousal support and that both parties be ordered to continue to pay the marital bills and not deplete, destroy or hide any marital assets.
Q: Do I have to state why I want a divorce and what if my spouse refuses to let me divorce?
A: In Michigan, we have “no fault” divorce so the court will not ask why you are getting a divorce and the court documents prepared by your attorney will most likely not include fault issues of either party. All that needs to be said is that there has been a breakdown in the marriage and no possibility of reconciliation. A spouse cannot refuse you a divorce. Even if the spouse refuses to recognize or participate in the court proceedings the divorce will go through.
Q: How is the amount of child support determined?
A: The amount of child support paid to the custodial parent by the non-custodial parent is usually determined by the Friend of the Court who looks at the number of minor children, the gross incomes of both parties and whether day care services are needed if both parents work. Your attorney should be able to estimate child support depending on how many over-nights you will have with your child(ren). Child support is usually not negotiable. For more information, click on Macomb FOC.
Q: What is the difference between physical and legal custody and can both parties share these?
A: Both parties can share physical and legal custody of the children; however, in most cases one parent will have physical custody and the other parent will have reasonable visitation rights. Physical custody is where one parent has the children most of the time while the non-physical custody parent has a minimum visitation of one evening a week, every other weekend and alternating holidays. Usually both parents share legal custody which means that both will share equally the children’s school, religious and medical concerns. Recently, the terms physical custody are not used in a divorce judgment because many think that a parent is then a “winner” or “loser”, depending upon which parent received physical custody. Consequently, many courts permit the wording “joint custody” with the “residence of the child or children with one parent” and the other parent has reasonable visitation and most likely pays child support. If the parents cannot agree on custody and/or parenting time then the Court will decide by using these factors: click on Determining Parenting Time. For more information, click on St. Clair FOC and Oakland FOC.
Q: Do I need an attorney for a divorce and how much can I expect to pay?
A: Of course you need an attorney because you want it done right and a fair distribution. Too many persons attempt to do a divorce themselves only to find that they have not prepared or filed legal documents correctly resulting in their case being dismissed. Lawyers charge different amounts depending upon their experience and the complexity of the divorce. A divorce can cost between $1200 and thousands of dollars. The more you and your spouse agree on issues of custody and marital asset and debt division the less expensive is the divorce. Fighting over who gets the refrigerator magnets or special visitation rights of the family pet hamster can be very expensive.
Q: What if my former spouse refuses to give me visitation of my child and constantly tells my child that I am a bad person?
A: The court takes very seriously the refusal of a court order of parental visitation.Your attorney should file a motion to show why the offending former spouse should not be held in contempt of court with the possible remedy of a change in custody, a fine, or possible jail time. Specifically: 1) apply a makeup parenting time policy established under MCL 552.642; 2) commence civil contempt proceedings under MCL 552.644; 3) file a motion with the court under MCL 552.517d for a modification of existing parenting time provisions to ensure parenting time, unless contrary to the best interests of the child; 4) schedule mediation subject to MCL 552.513; or 5 ) schedule a joint meeting subject to MCL 552.642a.
Q: I was just served divorce papers and my spouse tells me I do not need to get a lawyer, that her lawyer will handle everything. Is this a good a idea?
A: Generally speaking, it is not a good idea and you should seek your own legal counsel. If you do nothing with the complaint for divorce, and more than 21 days has past from the time that you were served, then your spouse’s attorney will most likely enter a default against you, which simply means you may be unable to defend yourself in court. It is a conflict of interest for one attorney to represent both parties in a divorce. Do not be bullied into accepting an agreement that is not fair. Hire a lawyer to protect your rights.
Other quick facts: 1) Giving $30.00 worth of clothing to your child(ren) is not a substitute for a $30.00 child support payment. 2) Child support is calculated using both parent’s income. Incomes of other (new) spouses are not used. 3) Failure to pay child support may result in reporting to the credit bureau, passport denial, various licenses (driving, professional, hunting) may be suspended and even a felony warrant. 4) The Friend of the Court will review child support orders once every three years or upon written request. 5) Bankruptcy does not discharge child support arrears or obligations. 6) The residence of the minor child may not be moved from the State of Michigan without consent of the other parent or permission of the court. 7) Missed parenting time must be reported to the Friend of the Court within 56 days or it may be deemed waived. 8) Both parties may agree to opt out of the Friend of the Court. 9) It is not advisable to go into a divorce with unrealistic demands and “win-all” expectations. With that said, almost always no person receives everything they want, but in the end, there is closure and your life moves on.
Q: How is the marital estate (assets and debts) usually divided in a divorce? I made all the money in our marriage so I am entitled to all of it, right?
A: No. The marital assets and debts are usually divided 50-50, including your retirement plan built during, but not before, the marriage, regardless if one spouse worked and the other spouse did not. A prenuptial agreement (made before the marriage), however, could change the asset and debt division in the event of a divorce and we recommend a prenuptial agreement when one person has substantially more assets than the other.
The answers given above are intended to give you general guidance but it is always necessary to consult an attorney regarding your specific circumstances.
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